1. Most girls absolutely live for theme parties. It's like their drug, and fraternity and sorority date parties are their fix. It's an epidemic. Dr. Phil should do a special on it. The trashier and more demeaning the theme the better. Golf pros and tennis hos, CEOs and secretary hos, playboys and playgirls, and unfortunately, the list goes on and on. And of course, there are the staples: neon, 80s, and celebrity couples. But of course everyone shows up as Britney Spears during her head-shaving phase accompanied by Kevin Federline. I do not understand why people get so excited about these parties. Every time one comes around everyone runs out to the dollar store or goodwill to buy hideous clothes that they will never wear again. Oh, so you're really going to wear that cutoff jean jacket with the rhinestone heart on the back of it after the party tonight? Yeah I didn't think so. Said jacket would, of course, be worn for a white trash theme, and would probably be completed with some American flag shorts. It doesn't matter who throws the party either. Osama Bin Laden could be hosting a theme party, and girls would still go. Any excuse to put on their leggings, workout leotard, and sequin scrunchie, and every girl is there.
Don't take this dislike of theme parties as a dislike of parties all together, though. I'm perfectly willing to go to parties and hang out or whatever, but please, for the love of all that is holy, do not make me wear a neon pink trucker hat in the process. That's just offensive to truckers, really.
2. If you're in a long distance relationship when you start college, you will most likely not be in that relationship for very much longer. I can't tell you the amount of people I met during welcome week who adamantly stated that they had a boyfriend/girlfriend back home or at whatever school. When asked about said significant other every person would get this far-off look on their face like they were 80 years old thinking back to their "glory days". The thing is though, 95% of the people who try to make a long distance relationship during college work, especially during freshman year, will break up with their boyfriend/girlfriend before Thanksgiving. This break up usually happens after allegations of cheating or suspicious Facebook pictures resulting in a tearful phone call and lots of crying in the showers, and no one wants to see that. During my time at Creighton only one of my friends has managed to stay together with her boyfriend. But they fly back and forth to see each about every other weekend, so I don't think that exactly counts as a long distance relationship, it's more like an interim relationship. And whenever he is here she always seems to be yelling at him for something, so I don't know. Relationships often mystify me, maybe because I've seen a lot of bad ones and very few good ones.
Seriously, be glad if you come to college single. No one needs that pressure, and you'll probably end up saving yourself the heartache. For those people that make it work and don't cheat on each other, I commend you. Long distance relationships are not easy(like I would know, but whatever) and if you can pull it off and be happy, then good for you. But college is the time to try to figure out who you are, and I feel like a lot of people still define who they are by who they are romantically attached to, and I just don't think that's healthy.
3. Continuing on the relationship trend....for those who come to college single, many of them will believe that they are going to marry the first boyfriend or girlfriend they have in college. Just like the break up of long distance couples, I've seen this happen time and time again. It's even happened to one of my best friends. The hours I've spent listening to her go on and on about how perfect he is and how they each want four kids, but first they want to travel and have good jobs and they want a traditional church wedding. I could go on, believe me, I could go on for hours, but I don't want to put you through that, as I'm sure it would make you want to harm yourself, as I wanted to do just to get out of those conversations. Don't get me wrong, I love my friend, but during the first two weeks of them dating, all we would talk about was how great her boyfriend was. Didn't matter if I had something I wanted to talk about, whatever I said would just lead right back to more boyfriend talk. Eventually I'd heard so much of her talking about her boyfriend that I started to do this impression of her gushing about her boyfriend. It's not mean or anything, her boyfriend even thinks it's funny. Someone even asked me to do my impression of her at a party recently.
My point is, I don't understand how people can put so much pressure on themselves with their relationships. You're not even old enough to drink legally, so why are you already planning your wedding? Sure, a lot of people meet their husband or wife in college, but a lot more people don't, and personally, I don't think that college is the ideal place to find a spouse.
--More on all this a little later, I should probably go to sleep...
Leah
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